Category Archives: relationships

The Myth Of The Happily Married Woman

Regular HayLadies! readers will recall that I got married back in April; during the process, I wrote a column called Hitched! for The Frisky. The fun part is that even though I’m an old boring married lady now, they still … Continue reading

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Hitched: Having A Co-Bachelor/ette Party

For this week’s Hitched column at The Frisky, I write about how Patrick and I decided to have a co-bachelor/ette camping weekend in lieu of traditional, gender-divided bachelor/ette parties. It was awesome. In the party family, bachelor/ette parties are closely … Continue reading

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Can You Throw An Affordable Wedding In The Age Of The WIC?

In this week’s Hitched column for The Frisky, I ask the question: can you actually have an affordable capital-W-wedding in the age of the Wedding Industrial Complex? Because Patrick and I sure are trying. I assumed it couldn’t be┬áthat hard … Continue reading

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I love my dad, but I don’t want him to give me away.

In this week’s Hitched column for The Frisky, I write about how I understand that people see the “giving away” part of a wedding ceremony as adorable and sweet, but for me, it’s too rooted in traditions of ownership to … Continue reading

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On The Privilege of Marriage

In this week’s Hitched column for The Frisky, I wonder if maybe it isn’t the gays! and feminism! and contraception! that’s killing marriage in America, but capitalism. Specifically, a Wedding Industrial Complex that says you’re not really married unless you … Continue reading

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Hitched: What Does It Mean To Be A Wife?

In this week’s “Hitched” column for The Frisky, I wonder on the question, “What does it mean to be a wife?” For me, the term “wife” isn’t a necessarily positive one. And yet here I am on a one-way track … Continue reading

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Hitched: My Maid Of Honor Hates Weddings

For this week’s Hitched column, I tackle lady relationships and wedding culture by addressing the fact that my maid of honor hates weddings. And yet, there she is at my side, shopping for wedding gear and reading a poem during … Continue reading

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