Category Archives: personal essays

We Cannot Choose Our Way To Gender Equality

(This post is because I have more to say about this.) REMOVING PUBIC HAIR HAS ITS ROOTS IN SEXIST TRADITIONS. EVEN THOUGH I AM A SPECIAL SNOWFLAKE WHO HAS ZIR OWN SPECIAL SNOWFLAKE REASONS FOR DOING IT. TAKING A HUSBAND’S … Continue reading

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The Next #ATXFEM Tweetup Is July 14th!

The first #ATXFEM tweetup was back in December 2011, and since then Austin feminists have been meeting just about monthly to drink cold beverages, organize with other activists and generally have a sweet time. If you haven’t been to one … Continue reading

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The Myth Of The Happily Married Woman

Regular HayLadies! readers will recall that I got married back in April; during the process, I wrote a column called Hitched! for The Frisky. The fun part is that even though I’m an old boring married lady now, they still … Continue reading

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Hitched: Having A Co-Bachelor/ette Party

For this week’s Hitched column at The Frisky, I write about how Patrick and I decided to have a co-bachelor/ette camping weekend in lieu of traditional, gender-divided bachelor/ette parties. It was awesome. In the party family, bachelor/ette parties are closely … Continue reading

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Please let this be our one and only wedding disaster.

This week in my Hitched column for The Frisky: Our wedding venue fell through 20 days before our wedding. I thought it was a hilarious April Fool’s joke when on Sunday, we met our day-of planner, Tracy, at our venue … Continue reading

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Hitched: Are Wedding Presents Just A Reward?

In this week’s Hitched column for The Frisky, I wonder whether wedding registries are even needed any more. I also get really fucking excited about the trampoline our wedding party bought us. But I don’t think we can ignore the phenomenon … Continue reading

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Hitched: Should We Go To Premarital Counseling?

This week in my Hitched column for The Frisky, I discover the wonders and horrors of premarital counseling, which in Texas is really, really recommended by the State, especially if you are a Christian person: Is the point of “Twogether … Continue reading

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