Category Archives: marriage

The Myth Of The Happily Married Woman

Regular HayLadies! readers will recall that I got married back in April; during the process, I wrote a column called Hitched! for The Frisky. The fun part is that even though I’m an old boring married lady now, they still … Continue reading

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Hitched: Having A Co-Bachelor/ette Party

For this week’s Hitched column at The Frisky, I write about how Patrick and I decided to have a co-bachelor/ette camping weekend in lieu of traditional, gender-divided bachelor/ette parties. It was awesome. In the party family, bachelor/ette parties are closely … Continue reading

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Please let this be our one and only wedding disaster.

This week in my Hitched column for The Frisky: Our wedding venue fell through 20 days before our wedding. I thought it was a hilarious April Fool’s joke when on Sunday, we met our day-of planner, Tracy, at our venue … Continue reading

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Hitched: Are Wedding Presents Just A Reward?

In this week’s Hitched column for The Frisky, I wonder whether wedding registries are even needed any more. I also get really fucking excited about the trampoline our wedding party bought us. But I don’t think we can ignore the phenomenon … Continue reading

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Hitched: Should We Go To Premarital Counseling?

This week in my Hitched column for The Frisky, I discover the wonders and horrors of premarital counseling, which in Texas is really, really recommended by the State, especially if you are a Christian person: Is the point of “Twogether … Continue reading

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Can You Throw An Affordable Wedding In The Age Of The WIC?

In this week’s Hitched column for The Frisky, I ask the question: can you actually have an affordable capital-W-wedding in the age of the Wedding Industrial Complex? Because Patrick and I sure are trying. I assumed it couldn’t be that hard … Continue reading

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I love my dad, but I don’t want him to give me away.

In this week’s Hitched column for The Frisky, I write about how I understand that people see the “giving away” part of a wedding ceremony as adorable and sweet, but for me, it’s too rooted in traditions of ownership to … Continue reading

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On The Privilege of Marriage

In this week’s Hitched column for The Frisky, I wonder if maybe it isn’t the gays! and feminism! and contraception! that’s killing marriage in America, but capitalism. Specifically, a Wedding Industrial Complex that says you’re not really married unless you … Continue reading

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Update: The Plight Of The Married Woman Still Pretty Much A Plight

[Ed. note: Last week we reposted a piece by Nan about her frustration with the North Texas PBS affiliate, KERA, which thanked her for her donation by, well, erasing her by privileging her husband’s name over her own. They blamed it … Continue reading

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Two! Two! Two New Hitched Columns! On Grooms and Disasters.

I’m too busy with wedding bullshit to write my wedding blog (58 days to the wedding, holyfuck) but I’m still writing my Hitched column for the Frisky, so I’ve got two new ones for you: first, there’s my take on … Continue reading

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