The Myth Of The Happily Married Woman

Regular HayLadies! readers will recall that I got married back in April; during the process, I wrote a column called Hitched! for The Frisky. The fun part is that even though I’m an old boring married lady now, they still let me write the column. And this week, I wrote what is probably my favorite one yet.

It’s called “The Myth Of The Happily Married Woman” and it takes on single-lady-shamers and concern-trolls who like to tell single women that they’re broken, and the only fix for their sad is a long-term heterosexual partnership. Of course, this isn’t really about making single women happy. It’s about prolonging the long, slow death-rattle of patriarchy. A sample:

Essentially, people with this attitude are guilting women for not doing something they have very little control over: meeting someone with whom they have enough mutual affection to feel like marriage is a positive and productive step. As if the actual problem with single women is that they’re a bunch of shallow, slutty bitches, as if everyone who ever got married was a saint with no baggage. Single women don’t have a problem. Society has a problem with them. It’s not the same thing.

There are also cat photos and a marriage-boat metaphor. So check it out.

About andrea grimes

Andrea is a journalist living in Austin, TX. She has a master's degree in anthropology and did her thesis work on gender and stand-up comedy. Seriously. Also, she has a bunch of cats. Three of them. Is three a bunch? Discuss.
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1 Response to The Myth Of The Happily Married Woman

  1. Paul Riddell says:

    I already owe you and your husband dinner, just for being you. This article means that I need to buy you two a few followup desserts, too.

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