Category Archives: personal essays

We Cannot Choose Our Way To Gender Equality

Posted on March 12, 2013 by

(This post is because I have more to say about this.) REMOVING PUBIC HAIR HAS ITS ROOTS IN SEXIST TRADITIONS. EVEN THOUGH I AM A SPECIAL SNOWFLAKE WHO HAS ZIR OWN SPECIAL SNOWFLAKE REASONS FOR DOING IT. TAKING A HUSBAND’S … Continue reading →

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The Next #ATXFEM Tweetup Is July 14th!

Posted on July 11, 2012 by

The first #ATXFEM tweetup was back in December 2011, and since then Austin feminists have been meeting just about monthly to drink cold beverages, organize with other activists and generally have a sweet time. If you haven’t been to one … Continue reading →

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The Myth Of The Happily Married Woman

Posted on June 15, 2012 by

Regular HayLadies! readers will recall that I got married back in April; during the process, I wrote a column called Hitched! for The Frisky. The fun part is that even though I’m an old boring married lady now, they still … Continue reading →

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Hitched: Having A Co-Bachelor/ette Party

Posted on April 12, 2012 by

For this week’s Hitched column at The Frisky, I write about how Patrick and I decided to have a co-bachelor/ette camping weekend in lieu of traditional, gender-divided bachelor/ette parties. It was awesome. In the party family, bachelor/ette parties are closely … Continue reading →

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Please let this be our one and only wedding disaster.

Posted on April 4, 2012 by

This week in my Hitched column for The Frisky: Our wedding venue fell through 20 days before our wedding. I thought it was a hilarious April Fool’s joke when on Sunday, we met our day-of planner, Tracy, at our venue … Continue reading →

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Hitched: Are Wedding Presents Just A Reward?

Posted on March 28, 2012 by

In this week’s Hitched column for The Frisky, I wonder whether wedding registries are even needed any more. I also get really fucking excited about the trampoline our wedding party bought us. But I don’t think we can ignore the phenomenon … Continue reading →

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Hitched: Should We Go To Premarital Counseling?

Posted on March 21, 2012 by

This week in my Hitched column for The Frisky, I discover the wonders and horrors of premarital counseling, which in Texas is really, really recommended by the State, especially if you are a Christian person: Is the point of “Twogether … Continue reading →

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Can You Throw An Affordable Wedding In The Age Of The WIC?

Posted on March 15, 2012 by

In this week’s Hitched column for The Frisky, I ask the question: can you actually have an affordable capital-W-wedding in the age of the Wedding Industrial Complex? Because Patrick and I sure are trying. I assumed it couldn’t be that hard … Continue reading →

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I love my dad, but I don’t want him to give me away.

Posted on March 7, 2012 by

In this week’s Hitched column for The Frisky, I write about how I understand that people see the “giving away” part of a wedding ceremony as adorable and sweet, but for me, it’s too rooted in traditions of ownership to … Continue reading →

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The Plight of the Married Lady

Posted on February 22, 2012 by

[Ed. note: This post by contributor Nan originally appeared "In honor of Valentine's Day," on her blog, Behind the Times. She's graciously allowed us to repost it on Hay Ladies! Thanks, Nan.] Dallas’ public radio station, KERA, recently ran a … Continue reading →

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